Confronting your own ageism—a response
In a recent *eMAIL to eMATE* issue, I wrote about the need to confront your own agism. I asked readers “What do you think when you see a single, male or female, looking for younger partners?” Here’s what Frank wrote back:
Well, you asked. I don’t see many guys’ profiles, but sometimes I see it in women’s ads. In fact, one riddled that one in her HEADLINE. Your job is to coach, not mine, but I dropped her a note anyway, and suggested that “disappear” since it was so negative. That, and the picture she had in there of her girlfriend (alone, not with her), also single, which caused me to muse silently, “hook me up with HER.”
Oops, got off track.
I look at the over/under age range, how much older are they looking for and how much younger than they are. If they go not much older, but much younger, or just their age and younger, I peruse the profile to determine if they have the “horsepower” to command such: unusually hot, or in shape, or have lots of money, but don’t expect the man to have a high income and the like.
Generally, I conclude that this person isn’t serious, or I do not take her seriously perhaps. I find fully grown women more interesting, as long as most pix aren’t of them sitting in a recliner, with a bazillion grandkids crawling over them. Some women really, really need to understand what they are selling. They are clueless!
One more comment. I still see “my family/dog/cat/kids/grandkids come first” Ok, lady, you want me to bust ass and woo you to be second or third in your life? You may be sellin’ but I ain’t buyin’.
