Kathryn's Blog

I continue to be dumbfounded by all this discussion on internet dating. I completely agree ... it is like playing Battleship and trying to find the one ship that will sink. Yet I see so many success stories. Is this just marketing hype?

Perhaps it’s time to coin a new term: “Internet Dating Threshold” (IDT), defined as the point at which a woman on an internet dating site is actually serious enough about wanting to meet someone that she will actually consider answering an initial email, entering conversation, and showing up on a simple/casual date that she can easily leave after an hour.

I find the IDT of most women to be unreasonably high ... and it gets worse (instead of better) as they get older. The battleship gets harder and harder to sink.

As someone else said on another post, “I also get the impression that online dating, as opposed to other types of dating, helps to make people overly unreasonable in their requirements. Because the technology allows people to screen easily and in detail, people go overboard. “If I can choose any type of person to date, why don’t I just screen out anyone who doesn’t fit the ‘perfect date’ profile?”

So how is it that there seem to be so many success stories?

L.

Posted by Anonymous  on  08/02  at  10:46 AM

There are loads of Internet dating success stories and more all the time because it works.  No other explanation needed.  Clearly there are all kinds of men and women out there, just some of whom are self-sabotaging of their relaltionship goals.  My husband and I are a success story, and he is by no means perfect.  He’d say the same about me.  But we are both pretty darned good, and appreciate that in the other.

Posted by Kathryn Lord  on  08/02  at  11:20 AM

Perhaps it worked for you. But it would be intersting to gather some statistics with valid sampling. I hear so many more independent stories of failure.

L.

Posted by Anonymous  on  08/02  at  12:35 PM

I think what needs to happen is you need to latch on to something specific.

For Example, my family friend Karen is late 40’s early 50’s.

She decided on asking a specific question of her own tastes in finding a man.

Anyone that answered her ad she asked them “I want to build a ‘Henge’,in my backyard. Can you help?

A henge is a garden decoration, (think StoneHenge). She went out with the first man who actually knew what that was and violla! a permanant partnership was formed!

Posted by Crackpotpress  on  08/02  at  03:03 PM

Is a great concept, if you could get all the women on these dating sites to do something similar, but they generally don’t.

L.

Posted by Anonymous  on  08/02  at  03:26 PM

It’s too bad that so many internet dating companies are unethical in their business practices.  The worst ones seem to be those that claim to be the most ethical (eHarmony, PerfectMatch, True).  I think that there’s room in the market for a truly-ethical internet dating company.  I’d be willing to pay more for such a service.

Posted by Ben  on  08/05  at  11:58 PM

RIP——-

As someone else said on another post, “I also get the impression that online dating, as opposed to other types of dating, helps to make people overly unreasonable in their requirements. Because the technology allows people to screen easily and in detail, people go overboard. “If I can choose any type of person to date, why don’t I just screen out anyone who doesn’t fit the ‘perfect date’ profile?”

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Yes, it is a challenge to my simple mind how much to put into the “musts” that I see wimmin’ display.  Now, if you are a 29 year old hottie, you can be pretty particular, but dearie, if you are 45, and have a six year old at home, I don’t care how hot you are, you need to carefully assess what you are selling, and who the buyers may be.

Or, you can “date” once or twice with Mister Wrong, or just sit at home.  If you are 50 or over, you better get real, kids gone, but if you hook up, there is always the questions of who inherits what, so while you don’t have to go to dates at Chuckie Cheese, you still have other issues.

My very favorite is the $25-$25,000 earner who puts the minimum on her date of earning $75K or $100K even.  Sweetie, those are the guys looking at the 29 year olds.

I will once again shout from the treetops, HONEY, WHAT IS IT THAT YOU ARE BRINGING TO THE TABLE?  AND DON’T SAY, “WHY, YOU GET TO BE WITH ME”

Ok, the Geezer is tired with that rant.  Time for a nap.

The Geezer, who blogs at http://www.thespinmeister.com and at http://www.hatemalepost.com.

Posted by The Geezer  on  08/15  at  12:43 PM