Divorced and Wanting to Remarry? Have You Checked Out Your Ex?
Now here’s a novel solution for finding a partner if you are divorced: Marry your ex all over again.
An article in TheState.com tells of three couples who did just that: They remarried their former spouse.
Here are tips for divorced folks collected by journalist Gail Rosenblum:
• Try not to burn bridges by trashing your ex to everyone you know. Nasty comments can come back to haunt you when you announce you’re trying again.
• Infidelity? That’s a tough one. Make sure the guilty spouse is truly remorseful and understands what things were like for the other one.
• Quit blaming your spouse for your unhappiness — that’s your responsibility. “Marriage doesn’t make you happy,” says family therapist and author Frank Pittman. “Marriage makes you married.”
• Seek counseling. It helps you let go of anger, learn healthy communication and forgive.
• Take heart. Divorce could be the best thing that ever happens to your marriage, letting you find a less emotional way to discuss big issues.
• If you make the leap, be a person of your word, said Neil Clark Warren, founder of the online matchmaking service eharmony.com. Alter things that can be altered. Don’t expect perfection. Show the world that two people can take a marriage that once failed and make it work this time. And celebrate that.
From Your Romance Coach, Kathryn Lord
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