Friends with benefits? Yikes!
I’ve read articles about dating and the social lives of Washingtonian’s by Seattle Times reporter Diane Mapes before. She’s good. But you’ve got to take a look at what came out on December 20th: “Friends with benefits. Buddies. Booty calls. Is this what dating has become?” Oooeee! If you are over 40 (and maybe if you aren’t), this article about what dating is becoming (at least some dating) will curl your hair. You will be amazed by the story she opens with.
But this stuff is good to know about, because there’s always a chance that your date will have exactly this in mind. Essentially, what we’re talking about here (not to be coy) is meeting for sex purposes only, the old-fashioned one night stand, or the new-fashioned “friends with benefits.”
Mapes quotes PerfectMatch’s Pepper Schwartz: “If someone has no intention of looking for someone special in their life and just wants sex for fun and pleasure, isn’t it better that they tell you right up front?” For SURE! In fact, let’s get them really separated out and onto their own sites. Places that already exist like AdultFriendFinder.
The clearer we all can be about what we really want, the more likely it will be that we get it. If you are married and looking to fool around, there are sites just for you (like AshleyMadison.com and Philanderers.com. I’ve written about them on my blog. Don’t lurk around on Match.com and spoil the fun for people who are seriously looking for someone serious.
From Your Romance Coach, Kathryn Lord
