Kathryn Says Her Piece On “Hooking Up” Episode #2
Okay, y’all, what did you think of “Hooking Up” episode #2? I am already worrying about what I am going to do on Thursday nights when this series is over in three weeks.
Here are my thoughts on the July 21 show:
Cynthia was less caustic on her sexy dancing date with new date Nathan. The date did not disintegrate into the bickering we had seen before, thank goodness, and I didn’t notice her labeling it “another bad date.” She did focus a bit too much, I thought, about his being younger than her. But then she hops in the taxi at the end of the date and proceeds to set up a “booty call” (ie go off to have sex with someone else). Does that seem odd to anyone but me?
Lesson: Dancing lessons are a great date idea! So sexy, and any guy willing to put himself in that position disserves lots of points. And a more positive attitude in Cynthia pays off. But what’s this “booty call” business, and what does that have to say about looking for a mate?
Maryam—now here’s a sad story. The episode shows her with two first dates. In the first, she complains that the guy does not look like his picture. The show puts his profile picture up next to his current look, and while he looks as if he put on a few pounds (his cheeks are not as chiseled as in the photo), he does appear to be the same guy. Maryam is a professional photographer, and the guy has to go on and explain to her about lighting. His photo was clearly professional, and Maryam should have known that reality might not match the digital. Then in an aside, the guy complains about her photo and reality, saying something about her looking sexier or more sensual in the photo.
In date #1 with guy #2, Maryam asks him if people think he is gay. Then says “I feel like the man in this relationship.” And more on this line. These are very strange statements on a first date. Then she takes him home and they SLEEP together, though it is unclear if they have sex. This is very strange date behavior.
And did anyone besides me think that Maryam might have been drunk on both dates? While the camera did not trace her drinking at all, her behavior looked definitely impaired by some kind of substance.
Lessons: 1. Reality and the photo often do not match. Be prepared for that possibility. And don’t post a photo that would make you out to be a liar on the first date. 2. Watch alcohol and drug consumption carefully. All your senses need to be fully engaged so that you can do your part in helping the date go well and absorb the details of what you date is presenting you with.
Amy—oh Amy! Hot to trot with gambler Chris—and she has sex with him the first time at her sister’s house??? Then Sis doesn’t like him, Chris starts to get on Amy’s nerves (though it is unclear how), and she dumps him. Then on to next date David. By the third date with Dave, she says he’s not going to “get lucky” that night, but after the date, she complains that she doesn’t know him and “Maybe if I sleep with him I’ll get to know the real him.”
Lesson: Stay with what you know. Amy seems way out of her league. Her small town origins are showing, both in her push to get married soon (she says she is old by her home town standards to still be single) and her ability to protect herself. She seems like a sitting duck.
Kelly’s dates with guy #2 Chris go pretty swimmingly, it appears. She does worry that she has heard he is older than his stated age (not clear what that was, but under 40), and indeed he does come clean, saying he is 40. She lets it go, but Chris has lots on his side, including a very big boat that they go out on the first date and a Hummer that Kelly gets sort of tricked by Chris into washing. In a bikini.
Lesson: Don’t lie, not ever, unless your boat and car will get you forgiven, and think twice about it even then. And watch that caddish behavior, no matter how many toys you have. Kelly, don’t let the glitz distract you from his character, which is showing.
From Your Romance Coach, Kathryn Lord
It’s amazing. Amy is so much fun, so appealing, so attractive. Yet so immature. She is drawn towards these guys for the wrong reasons, and then wonders why she can’t make a good relationship happen. It is her own immaturity and shallowness. She is so into the chemistry and physical aspect of dating (even states more than once that she has to sleep with the guy so she can get to know him). And she brings her date to sleepover at her sister’s on the 3rd date?
I also appreciated Kelly and Steve ... both of whom impress me as mature and serious about dating. It is interesting that she let him slide about the age lie ... when we are commonly told NEVER to do this and many women say that this would be a deal-breaker because it provides clues about the guys truthfullness. Could it be that she lets him slide because he is so rich? Could it be that if he was a more “average joe”, that this would have been the end? Perhaps not. But I certainly asked myself that question.
I find it interesting that this show is billed as an internet dating show. There is a little coverage of the internet aspect of it, but not much. They show for a second or two some quick glimpses of ads, they showed one part where Maryam’s date didn’t look like his picture (by the way, Kathryn, I did feel that his picture truly misrepresented what he really looked like ... it was that far from what he really looked like), they show a bit where Kelly questions her date’s age ... but for the most part, these dates could be ANY dates not necessarily initiated by the internet. It really shows little about the experience of trying to make choices, nothing about the rejection, nothing about filling out the profile and the angst that some people go through trying to describe themselves, nothing about the unanswered emails or answered emails that then break off communication, nothing about trying to locate good pictures or hiring a pro to take them, etc. And what’s with all the women who have cars in NYC, the women who actually go the guy’s house on the first date to pick them up?
L.
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