SAQ # 3. I want my Sweetheart to accept me for who I am.
Therefore, I should not do anything special to look better than I do every day, right?
Not unless you don’t care about getting the best possible mate. If you DO happen to want the best in a potential partner, then for sure, do anything you can to increase your bargaining power.
First off, who you are includes the part that would get ready to date. What does it say to your potential partner if you don’t think that looking for your partner for life includes sprucing up your looks and dressing like you are going out on something special?
Second, people who have been out of the dating mode tend to get lazy. They get soft, fat, and sloppy. They even can develop a personal style designed to keep potential partners at a distance.
Regardless of what we wish, we do judge and are judged by how we present ourselves. Do you want to be seen a slob? Careless about your appearance? Even disrespectful of your date because it looks like you don’t see meeting him or her as special enough to gussy up?
The one exception to this rule would be people who are so spectacularly gorgeous that dates might get overwhelmed and be scared off. In that case, tone down the presentation. For that matter, toned down is a good rule in general – save the diamonds and glitz for the opera. Clean, well-groomed, and clothes without holes might be dressing up for you.
Think too what it means in the long run: that who you are and how you present yourself is not the best possible you that you can be. Do you really want to reserve what is not the best you for your partner for life?
