The Obama’s on the dance floor—he gets kudos!
Guys who dance have a distinct advantage over those who don’t. Even guys who aren’t particularly good dancers but are willing to try have an edge. Watching the Obama’s on the dance floor recently got lots of folks talking. My client Leslie wrote me a wonderful piece of reflection that I am publishing in my February 1 enewsletter *eMAIL to eMATE* that goes out today and is posted here on my website. She refers to one of my most popular articles “Become a Babe Magnet” which deserves to be posted here for your enjoyment:
Become a Babe Magnet without Surgery or Drugs!
Kathryn Lord © 2004 All Rights Reserved
“I’d like to find a partner who dances. Do you?” my profile on
Match.com asked. My now-husband Drew emailed that he was willing
to take lessons, and that was enough for me. Non-dancer Drew’s
courage to put himself out on the dance floor and to show in
lesson after lesson his amateur status was truly impressive. We
took private dance instruction for a year before our wedding, and
as a result, got around the dance floor quite gracefully at our
reception.
Women are dying to dance. Any man who can ask a woman to dance,
then take charge of what happens on the floor and move relatively
smoothly to music, has enormous appeal. Fat or skinny, short,
tall, or not even close to attractive, even old, old, old, a man
who is comfortable on the dance floor has his pick of the ladies.
For whatever the reason, dancing intoxicates. Especially women.
Few men can really dance, and those guys are on the floor
constantly. Some men think they can dance and do get up, ask the
ladies, and have fun. But at least half the men sit or stand
uncomfortably on the sidelines with all the women who wish to be
on the dance floor.
We women don’t get to dance nearly as much as we’d like to, even
the ladies who are good dancers. There aren’t enough dancing men
to go around. You can almost feel the yearning, the sadness, and
the disappointment in those women and between those non-dancing
couples. And the non-dancing guys? Pathetic.
I personally know three women close to my age who met their now-
spouses on the dance floor, and those ladies were great catches!
Gentlemen and ladies, there’s a message here.
Guys:
1. Take lessons and learn how to dance. Leading well takes
skill, but if Drew could learn how, so can you.
2. Go to dances.
3. Ask women to dance. Lots of women. They’ll love it. Even
if you aren’t so good, they’ll appreciate your efforts.
Dance lessons themselves are good places to meet women, and most
dance studios have regular parties for their students to practice
what they have learned.
Ladies:
1. Take dancing lessons yourself and learn how to follow. Here
I was, 50 years old, thinking I loved to dance, and I had no idea
how to do the woman’s part! Following takes skill! You have to
figure out what your partner has in mind for you to do in a split
second, and then actually do it, all while dancing backwards.
2. Buy yourself some real ballroom dancing shoes, maybe with
high heels. Believe it or not, those shoes are comfortable. They
have to be. Not only do they look very sexy, they stay on your
feet!
3. Hang out at dances, too, if you like to dance. Single guys
go to dances.
If you are connected to a dance studio, other single women will
be at their parties as well as the studio instructors and male
students, so you will know people. Dance parties are safe and
comfortable for single women.
Guys—nothing enhances as man’s romantic marketability more
than becoming a decent dancer. Learning to dance is cost
efficient and relatively painless. No surgery or blood loss, no
sweaty hours at the gym, no personality makeovers needed. Just
dance lessons.
What’s stopping you? Look up the dance studio nearest you and
make that call! You’ll become a dancing babe magnet!
