“Who Lies?” from the Elle/MSNBC Survey
“How can I tell if they are lying?” is one of the top questions that I hear from almost every one of my Romance Clients. I’ve written a great article with lots of things to look for that will help you detect lying. If you’d like a copy, email me at spotlying@Find-a-Sweetheart.com and you’ll get my article sent right back to you. The Elle/MSNBC survey that I wrote about in the last entry had some interesting findings on the prevalence of lying on dating sites. Here’s what they found:
Only one in ten women said they were “less than truthful” about their weight or appearance. 72% of men and women said they didn’t lie about appearance at all. However, 20% of the guys admitted to saying they were single when they were not. And at least 29% of the guys said they go online “intending to cheat.”
Here’s a helpful hint from the study author Janet Lever: Men who don’t post photos are twice as likely to be married. When you think about it, that makes good sense, doesn’t it? What if the guy’s wife is cruising around looking, too, and stumbles on his pic?
While the vast majority of men and women online are genuine, credible, and truth-telling, some aren’t. That’s the same as off-line, right? I sure hear of plenty of deceptive, nefarious men and women who meet their prey just about anywhere, including places you’d assume safe, like church. As a matter of fact, if you go to online sites that are associated with a religion (like CatholicMtch.com or ChristianMatchmaker.com or Jdate or LDSPromise, do not assume that you are with people like you and therefore are safe. Crooks looking for victims get on those sites, too. They are well-aware that such sites help people feel safe and drop their guard. Here’s a chilling article about one such person. Note the quotes from her profile about Bible reading.
Safety hint: Print off and save ALL communications that you get from prospective Sweethearts. And review your correspondence for inconsistencies. For more hints, get my article on detecting lying by emailing me at spotlying@Find-a-Sweetheart.com.
