IN THIS ISSUE:

1. Welcome and What’s New?
2. 100% Success
3. Kathryn Lord’s 10 Most Frequently Asked Questions—With Answers
4. Does Internet dating work?
5. Who is Kathryn Lord?
6. What is Romance Coaching

WELCOME! AND WHAT'S NEW?

Oh, wow! Today is such an incredibly beautiful day here on our Maine island that Drew and I just sat silently on the deck this morning.  When we did say anything, it was things like “There’s a nuthatch on the suet cake” or “Look how beautiful the green poplar leaves are against the blue of the sky.”  When the weather is nice, we take our lunch to one of several favorite spots near the water and just soak up the atmosphere. It’s almost lunch time now.

As beautiful as it is here and as much as I love it, I know that it is too hard to live here alone.  Our beautiful house is nestled in the woods on a quiet country road.  We can’t see any other houses. It is remote and lonely if there is no one to share it with. 

I lived here for ten years, much of that time alone. I couldn’t stand the loneliness, finally, and the mate possibilities were slim to non-existent.  So I moved, to Tallahassee, where winters were easier, and where more people meant more possibilities. 

The move was horribly wrenching.  I left the home and business I had built here, moving to a place where I knew practically no one.  But I left the loneliness that was a sure thing for the hope and possibility of something better.  I sent my very first email right after moving to Tallahassee in 1992.  The Internet was that new.  Match.com got started in 1995, I heard about it in 1997, meant Drew in 1998.  The rest is history.

If you are lonely and your current situation looks bleak, what are you willing to do to change it?  You could make a huge geographical change like I did.  For sure, change SOMETHING!  But, maybe, you should hire me to help you find love.  If you want a 100% chance of success, that’s what you will do.  See 2. 100% Success below.

Then I continue on answering you 10 Most Frequently Asked Questions with 2. Does Internet dating work? If you missed last issue’s Q and A I am so scared I don’t know where to start.  What can I do?, I’ve posted it on my blog, as I will the rest of the Q and A’s. 

We are heading back south this next week, back to Tallahassee and HEAT.  Drew starts teaching soon, so it is back to work (not that we have been goofing off!).  Even while we are on the road, I am always reachable by phone or email .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address)  Remember that the thing I want most is to help you find the love you want.  Let’s get started.

Best, Kathryn

Years ago, when I was a newer Romance Coach, a prospective client with a fine-tuned sense of business asked me about my success rate in helping singles find love.  I said that was hard to establish, because people hired me for various reasons and jobs, plus I had no control over what they did with the help I gave.  And that is still true. 

Most folks that I help, truthfully, I never talk to.  Thousands of people get my enewsletter *eMAIL to eMATE*, visit my blog and website, buy and read my books, and I never hear from them otherwise.  Some people talk to me once only, and that is enough for them.  More people hire me to do a specific job, like helping them build a quality profile package, and then I never hear from them again either. 

But the clients I truly love working with hire me to get the job done – to help them find a mate – and stick with me until the job IS done, sometimes even longer.  With those folks, I can confidently say that my success rate is 100%.  Yes, that is right: 100% of the people who hire me, stick with me, take my advice, no matter how long it takes, eventually find the love they are looking for.  Here’s why: I am good at what I do.

But…though I’d like to take full responsibility, a huge factor in mate-finding success is persistence.  These folks stick to it.  They may get discouraged or scared.  They may get angry at me or the whole darned process.  They may take a break now and then.  But they are persistent, do not waver from their overall goal of finding love, and eventually, by God and with help from me, they do.

Now, many people who I help but never hear the results from also find love, because they too persevere.  They keep at it.  You only have to get lucky once at this game, and you make your own luck.

I know that some people give up.  But the people who are successful do NOT give up.  And those who stick with me never give up.  I never give up on them either.
So want a 100% guarantee that you will find love?  Hire me to help and stick with me.  We’ll figure it out.  I promise.

See the answer to 2. Does Internet dating work? in Section 4 below.  The answer to I am so scared I don’t know where to start.  What can I do? is posted here on my blog.

1. I am so scared I don’t know where to start.  What can I do?  For my answer, click here.
2. Does Internet dating work?
3. What is the best dating site for me?
4.  Why don’t they answer my emails?
5. I don’t want to be recognized on a dating site by my family/friends/clients/co-workers/students.  What can I do to prevent that?
6. Shouldn’t I try eHarmony?
7. Is it okay to lie about my age?
8. How do I tell my date about xyz?
9. There are no good men/women where I live.  Should I even try?
10. This shouldn’t be so hard.  Why does Internet dating take so much time?  Shouldn’t love “just happen”?

Now, on the surface, this sounds like a dumb question to a Romance Coach who met her husband on Match.com.  Of course!  We are living evidence that Internet dating does indeed work, and work well.  And it is not just Drew and me.  Internet dating is working so well now that 17% of newly marrieds over the last three years say they met online, 30% of those on Match.com.  Particularly since 9/11, online dating has gone mainstream.  If it wasn’t working, people wouldn’t be saying so.

The important thing to recognize is that Internet dating sites are not really the matchmakers some would like you to think.  It’s better to realize that they are like glorified telephone books or catalogs. 

Everyone listed is looking for someone.  You can’t be sure what they are looking FOR, or how available they really are, but they are looking.

It’s up to you, though, to do the work and make your luck.  The phone book won’t make the call for you, but will help you find the phone number for an individual or business.  The catalogue won’t order a shirt or dress for you that is the right size and looks great.  You have to do the picking and choosing yourself.

A better question would be “Does hiring a Romance Coach work?” For that, the answer is an unqualified “Yes!”  At least, hiring THIS Romance Coach, Kathryn Lord.

Every one of the singles who have hired me to help them find love, have taken my advice, and have stuck with the process has found a loving partner. Every single one.  And by the way, I have NEVER advised anyone to stop looking.  Very occasionally, there will be someone who, for whatever reason, I simply cannot work with.  We may agree to disagree.  But never have I given up working with someone who really wants to find love and is willing to keep going until they do.

So here’s the secret: Internet dating works, and works very well, IF you know how to work it and are willing to keep at it until you succeed.  Part of the success may be hiring a coach to help you with what you don’t know.  But if you find yourself saying “Internet dating doesn’t work,” the real reason is that you haven’t figured out how to make it work for you.  That’s where I can help.  Because Internet dating DOES work.

6. WHO IS KATHRYN LORD?

When Drew and I met, we were pioneers.  Internet matchmaking was brand new, it was scary, and we had no help.  We were lucky.  We were able to make it work.

My goal is to make the whole business easier for singles just like you.  I have spent the last five years learning everything I could so that I could pass onto you just what you need, right when you need it.

7. WHAT IS ROMANCE COACHING?

Kathryn Lord (that’s me) is a Romance Coach and psychotherapist with over 30 years experience in helping singles find love and happiness. If you want to know more about my qualifications, you can find lots about me on my website http://www.Find-a-Sweetheart.com.

I know that you can find the love you are looking for because I did it myself when I was 48.  It was 1998 and online dating sites were brand new.  I was terrified, but I persevered, figured out the system on my own, and met my now husband Drew.  We are a match for sure.

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