IN THIS ISSUE:

1. Welcome and What’s New?
2. Help Kathryn write her next book!
3. Back to School Sale!
4. Big Brother may be watching
5. Who is Kathryn Lord?
6. What is Romance Coaching?

WELCOME! AND WHAT'S NEW?

Hey!  We are back in Florida, glad to be here safe and sound.  It was great in Maine, equally wonderful here for different reasons.  But, oh those transitions!  The big bugaboo is getting all the machines and services up and working, and this time (actually, just about every time), it’s the Internet.  A busted modem, then router, in our fancy wired-for-the-21st century house.  So I waited for UPS to bring the new one, and have been basically out of Internet contact for the last week.  Not so good for an Internet based business like this one.

However, I chose to see this as an exercise in patience.  In fact, I’ve been using the time to outline my next book, which is VERY exciting!  It’s going to be a guide to Internet dating.  I know, there are plenty of efforts out there already, but you haven’t seen this one!  You know, when I met my Sweetie Drew just a little over ten years ago on Match.com, there was NOTHING that I could find to help me figure out online dating.  So whatever you see now has been written in the last ten years.  Some are good, but most absolute trash.  And none have my perspective, with all I have gleaned from my own experience of finding love on the Net and then helping you all with your searches too. 

But I could use your help!  And I am willing to bribe you to get it.  I want to have this book be the most concise Internet dating guide available, covering everything and then some.  See what you can win in 2. Help Kathryn write her next book!

I’m having my very first 25% across the board sale in Your Sweetheart Store on my website!  EVERYTHING in the store, including coaching and time with me on the phone, is 25% off!!!  This sale is time limited, so see the details below in 3. Back to School Summer Sale!

The main article in this issue 4. Big Brother may be watching is a serious one.  I’ve been reminded lately of how little privacy we actually have, especially these days of Googling, blogs and background checks.  All are reasons to keep your behavior good and above board.  Let me know what you think…

Best from
Kathryn Lord
Your Romance Coach

I’m just getting started on my next book and I need your help! I know what I think needs to go in it, but I am sure that I’m not thinking of everything.  Here’s what I want from you:

What do you want me to be sure to cover?

What have you NOT seen in other books, or were covered badly, that you’d like to see me address better?

Here’s the bribe: 

EVERYONE who sends me something will get a ½ price coupon for the electronic version of the new book, when it is ready.

Everyone who submits something that I actually use will get the ebook for free.

The top three entries will get a hard copy, beautifully printed, of the book.

And the idea which I think is the absolute BEST will get an hour on the phone with me.

What’s to lose? NOTHING! You’ll help write the best Internet dating book out there, get your questions answered in the process, and win the resulting book at a reduced price, free, and maybe even time on the phone with me!

Put on your thinking caps and let me know what I should be SURE to cover in my brand new book!  Send your ideas to

Fall’s not in the air yet here in Florida, but the kiddos are heading back to school and there are sales everywhere.  With summer winding down, it’s time to get serious again about looking for love.  I’m here to help you do it!

So we are trying something BRAND NEW – 25% off ALL products in Your Sweetheart Store, including time with me!  If it is in Your Sweetheart Store, you can get it for 25% off the listed price!  I have NEVER done this before, and I am only going to offer this for a week, because I am not that crazy!  It’s too good a deal to last!  This is a terrific opportunity for you to kick start your dating life!

Just think: 25% off means almost $25 off a Platinum Profile Workup and Rehab (normally $99), more than $7 off my book “Find a Sweetheart Soon!” and a whopping $75 off The Select: Ongoing Romance Coaching Package!
Here’s what you do: Go to Your Sweetheart Store, pick out everything you want, then click “View Cart/Check Out” See where it asks for “Coupon code”?  Type in BACK2SCHOOLSALE and see how much you’ll save! 
Ready to go shopping?  Click here!

Remember: The sale is OVER in just a week, on August 22!  Click here now!

If you read George Orwell’s “1984” you’ll remember how eerie Big Brother—the ever-watchful eye of the government – was: No privacy to be had, your every move observed.  Certainly one of the freedoms we cherish most is the right to privacy.  But the assumption of privacy, particularly in regards to dating, mate-finding, and sexuality, can lead to real trouble.

We’ve seen one big instance lately in the recent admission by John Edwards that, despite his moral public persona and his denials, he had had an affair in 2006 while his wife was battling cancer.  He still denies that the baby his affair partner has since had is his, but of course that would be all too easy to prove or disprove.  I don’t know how the information about his affair got out, but the news sources have played a videotape of an interview his affair partner taped with him clearly flirting with her and them both giggling about a speech he was going to give on morality.  Did he really think that no one would find out?  Probably.

We’ve had another instance pointing to the incredible naivety of folks about seemingly private matters in my area of Maine.  Howard Evans, a locally prominent, highly respected and visible man, just pled guilty to sexual abuse of a minor male and is now in the county jail for 30 days.  His mug shot accompanied an article with all the details, including that he has to register as a sex offender and have no private access to children under 18.  It also seems that his behavior had been going on un- or barely-detected with many youngsters for many years. 

People seems to have an odd ability to delude themselves about errant sexual behavior.  I think it has to do with all those pleasurable brain chemicals that get stirred up around attraction and sex.  We seem to feel protected, sort of like in a bell jar, with just this one other person.  No one is going to find out, neither of you is ever going to tell.  So we feel safe to do whatever feels good at the time.

Well, somebodies found out and somebodies told, on both John Edwards and Howard Evans.  For both of these guys, likely their careers as respected men are now over.  All because they thought that they could do whatever felt good, no matter what the ethics involved, because no one would find out.

Wrong.  People do find out.  And these days, more than ever.  Politicians can’t expect a wink, an elbow, and silence from those who know or suspect, and neither can well-thought-of community members.  My husband Drew says “Three people can keep a secret if two of them are dead.” Same goes for two people and secret-keeping: One better be dead, or you’ll have no control of the information.

I certainly am not advocating murder as a solution for keeping secrets.  Nor am I suggesting that everyone is going to be able to maintain impeccable behavior their whole lives.  But you’d better assume that secrets are next to impossible to keep.  So if you have some, best that you figure out how to proactively handle them, i.e. package and tell the information yourself before someone else does.

Also, even while the pleasure chemicals are bathing your brain cells, try to keep in mind that the most private behavior is not really private.  If you wonder if something you are about to do is wrong, think about how it would look on the front page of your local paper.  If you wonder if your handling of a situation could be better, keep in mind how it would look if someone Googled your name and found it described on a blog.  It happens.  The best defense is the best behavior, even when you think no one is looking. 

6. WHO IS KATHRYN LORD?

Kathryn Lord (that’s me) is a Romance Coach and psychotherapist with over 30 years experience in helping singles find love and happiness. If you want to know more about my qualifications, you can find lots about me on my website http://www.Find-a-Sweetheart.com.

I know that you can find the love you are looking for because I did it myself when I was 48.  It was 1998 and online dating sites were brand new.  I was terrified, but I persevered, figured out the system on my own, and met my now husband Drew.  We are a match for sure.

7. WHAT IS ROMANCE COACHING?

When Drew and I met, we were pioneers.  Internet matchmaking was brand new, it was scary, and we had no help.  We were lucky.  We were able to make it work.

My goal is to make the whole business easier for singles just like you.  I have spent the last five years learning everything I could so that I could pass onto you just what you need, right when you need it.

If you would like to know more about how I could help you in your search for love, you can talk to me on the phone.  Go to My Sweetheart Store on my website and sign up for “The Romantic Mini” or the “One Hour Special.” Once your purchase is complete, I’ll contact you to set up a time to talk.  And think about it: What does it mean if you DON’T?

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